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Five Lessons the Airlines Taught Me About BAD Customer Service

By Darcie Harris

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This might be an overstatement, but I’m guessing that the only industry with a worse approval rating than Congress right now is the airline industry.

My recent experience with airline customer service left a lot to be desired andndash; like anti-anxiety meds. Being a lemons-to-lemonade person, I resolved to turn this into a learning experience.

So join me on a journey (saga?) to learn five customer service lessons that the airlines have not yet mastered.

Back in April, I made airline reservations for an EWF International women’s retreat — ten members, traveling in September. The airline I used shall remain nameless. They are currently in bankruptcy (now I know why).

Two months later, I received the dreaded email, “Your itinerary has changed.” It’s bad enough to get one of those emails when it’s just YOU traveling, but when you know it’s going to affect eleven other busy womenandhellip;my stomach turned before opening it.

That’s when the nightmare began.

Our schedule has changed, and it impacts your upcoming trip. Please review the itinerary below for your flight numbers, departure and arrival times, and seat assignments. We have bolded the changes. We look forward to seeing you onboard soon.”

It was nice of them to put the changes in bold, don’t you think?

But something was missing. Not one hint of an apology, or even an acknowledgement of the inconvenience this might cause.

  • LESSON ONE: Apologize. If something you or your company did caused an inconvenience to your customer, take responsibility and say you’re sorry. The world is not a perfect place. Things change. Things go wrong. We can’t control the universe (darn!). But we can say “I’m sorry.”

The change was significant. Our layover on our return flight changed from fifty minutes to three and a half hours. That put our arrival time home at 11:15 p.m. On a weeknight. I was going to have unhappy travelers.

I called the airline to see what they could do.

The recorded voice mail began, “Did you know that you can get [most of your stupid questions] answered on our website? Please go to www.namelessairline.com. (Pauseandhellip;they’re hoping I’m going to hang up now.) If you are a frequent flyer, press one. If not, press two. If you are calling about existing reservation, press three. If you are calling about new reservations, press four. If you are calling about reservations in the continental US, press six.” And on and on.

I went through five layers of voice mail before I got a real person.

  • LESSON TWO: Have a real live person answer the phone, all the time. Nothing says, “We really don’t want to hear your voice” more than an automated answering system.

I pressed the “customer care” option and now I’m on the phone with a human being. Sort of.

I explained that I was the coordinator for ten women traveling together. I explained that this group had made their decision about where to take this retreat in large part based on the flight schedules andndash; departure, arrival and layover times. I explained that there were ten female business owners who were going to be pretty unhappy customers of theirs.

“Can you please put us on another flight?”

“No, we don’t have another flight.”

“Can you please put us on another airline?”

“No, we don’t do that.”

“Then can you at least refund a portion of their ticket cost, since now the same flight that we paid $750 for is selling for $459?”

“We can’t do that! If we did that for you, all of our customers would want refunds, and we’d lose money.”

“Then can you please put me through to a supervisor.”

“Sure. But she’s going to tell you exactly what I told you, so you’re just wasting your time. I’ve worked for this company for twenty years and they do this all the time. They don’t listen to me or anybody else.”

I’m serious, that’s exactly what she said.

  • LESSON THREE: Service is about experiencing the situation from the customer’s point of view, not from the company’s point of view. Every employee who has direct customer contact should be trained to think, “How does this company need to look and act in the way the customer needs it to look and act.”

I spent ten minutes on hold, waiting for a supervisor.

After three frustrating conversations with three supervisors in three locations representing three departments, one supervisor finally took pity on me and agreed that this was a bad situation.

She offered to send each woman a $200 credit voucher to use on another trip, and (perhaps more important) agreed to send each woman a pass to their private lounge to ease the blow of our three-hour layover.

I had now been on the phone over two and a half hours.

Fast forward six weeks. I still hadn’t received the travel vouchers or the lounge passes.

I called three more times, plowing through layers of voice mail each time, trying to reach the right person.

On that day I talked with Kay, Hal, Julia, Lindsey, John and Darcelle — six different people andndash; asking them to find out why I hadn’t received the vouchers and passes. Two of them openly said they didn’t believe that any supervisor would have approved the “benefits” I’d been given. Hal hung up on me(yes, I was frustrated, no I wasn’t screaming obscenities, though I admit I was tempted!).

That day I spent over three hours on the phone.

  • LESSON FOUR: Honor your promises. Document what you agreed to do and follow through right away. If the customer took the time out of their busy day to contact you, then don’t let them down again. Don’t add salt to the wound.

That was two weeks ago. I received the credit vouchers via email that day. I still haven’t received the lounge passes.

No, I won’t call back. I’ll just buy my clients a drink during our layover and celebrate life’s imperfections.

  • LESSON FIVE: Have a clearly defined escalation process. Train front line people to handle the majority of situations. But if the decision is outside of their level of authority, have them escalate the problem to one person with the authority to do whatever is necessary to make this a happy customer. And give the customer that supervisor’s direct line, just in case they do need to call back.

Customers are the reason we’re in business. They are our livelihood. They pay our employees. They pay our utility bills. We exist for one reason: to fill an unsatisfied need for our customers.

Let’s be good at that!

andcopy; Darcie Harris, 2012

Why is Everyone Trying to Empower Women?

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As women, we want others to see us as understanding, compassionate and fair, right?

Powerful? Don’t go there.

We were raised to be nice girls. Not to be powerful.

Anxious we’ll be labeled as demanding or hard to please, we often feel hesitant to assume appropriate power.

I’ve seen women walking on eggshells with their staff, or nearly held hostage by employees, fearful of articulating responsibility and expecting accountability.

I’ve seen women make excuses for employees who do not live up to expectations, don’t produce enough or simply do mediocre work while the company suffers and the bar gets lowered for everyone on the team. I’ve seen women taken advantage of by vendors, contractors, even clients who are tough negotiators.

We struggle with setting limits, expressing expectations and taking care of own needs.

We do all these things because we’re avoiding our legitimate power.

But if power is so bad, why is everyone trying to empower women?

I don’t think women need to be empowered.  I think we already have power and often give it away or avoid it.

Because we’ve developed a negative perception of power, we avoid our power, until we come face to face with the reality that we are swimming in self-doubt or have settled for less than we deserve.  Our negative perceptions of power lead to living someone else’s version of what we should or shouldn’t do.

When we abdicate our power, we create a vacuum of leadership, without recognizing that our team members and staff would respect a more assertive, confident position.

What’s the answer?

My best lessons about authentic, appropriate power didn’t come from business books or business training. My best education about power came from … horses!

When I finally learned to ride, at the ripe age of forty, I learned that in every herd of horses, there is a dominant horse, the horse recognized to be in charge. This horse is always a mare.

She’s known as the Alpha Mare.

Her duty is to tend to the safety and well-being of the entire herd. She signals the entire when to move, sleep, eat, drink or run for safety. She disciplines unruly youngsters, teaching them respectful behavior.

The Alpha Mare has a great responsibility; the herd depends on her to make wise choices and enforce reasonable rules. The entire herd looks to her for leadership, structure and discipline.

Alpha Mares don’t need to be empowered.  They know they have power and they don’t squirm over using it.  They don’t worry about what the other horses think of them. They certainly don’t try to avoid or give away their power.

They embrace their power. They lead.

How can we be more like the wise Alpha Mares?

  • We can shift our perception of power from negative to positive.
  • We can quit looking to others to empower us.  We already have power.  Just embrace it.
  • We can and let go of the fear of what others think of us, express our expectations and get comfortable setting limits and boundaries.
  • We can use our power to lead.

As business leaders, we have the power to facilitate teamwork, to inspire employees to discover their talents and pursue their dreams.

We have the power to influence others, to lead others to achieve what they might not accomplish otherwise.

We have the power to create jobs and to improve our communities.

Power isn’t bad — abuse of power is.

It’s an honor to be like the Alpha Mare.

Embrace your power and use it for the greater good.

By Darcie Harris ©

The Ladies Room: Women Working with Women

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A TALE OF TWO WORKPLACES

A friend of mine works in a medical office. The entire staff is female, the doctor is male.

One co-worker is a passive aggressive martyr who alternately brings people special gifts, then goes unresponsive, withholds information, and does sneaky things. Another co-worker complains regularly because she feels unappreciated, has frequent emotional meltdowns, shares intimate details about her personal life, and obsessively focuses on little issues, like which coffee filters they use.

Not a fun place to work.

In contrast, I know a female business owner with a work force that’s 85% female. Their teamwork has allowed them to be successful through both up & down markets. When the workload is heavy, they all rise to the occasion. They have an incredible retention rate; many employees have worked there over 20 years and many have relatives or friends who work together. They are seen as leaders in their industry. And their entire leadership team is not only female, they are related!

What’s the difference?

We’re all familiar with the horribly negative stereotypes about women working with women. We hear about women not getting along at work and we roll our eyes and say, “Too much estrogenandhellip;what else can you expect?”

GENDER DIFFERENCES

Newsflash: women are different than men, and behave differently in workplace than men.

Research shows that female brains are wired to empathize while male brains are designed to understand & build systems. Studies of children show that girls are more likely to seek consensus & be more concerned with fairness rather than competition and that take turns 20 times more often than boys.

The relationshipandmdash;not winningandmdash;is the goal.

While men’s self esteem is typically derived more from their ability to maintain independence, women’s self esteem is maintained more from ability to sustain intimate relationships.

In total: women have a greater awareness of emotional climate, are more relationship driven & have communication, connection, & responsiveness as primary values, as opposed to competition, winning.

EXPECTATIONS AND ASSUMPTIONS

Those are all great qualities and, when used appropriately, contribute to women’s success in management.

But strengths overused become weaknesses and work against us.

When we expect these wonderful relationship qualities that are intended for friends & family to carry into the workplace, we create unrealistic expectations for ourselves and others. At some point, we have to be about the work, not just the feelings, not just the relationship.

To get past the negative stereotypes, we have to change our expectations.

What I see at the core of the negative stereotypes is not women working with women. It’s about people working with people. Imperfect human beings working with other imperfect human beings.

We’re all different.

We have different needs, different communication styles, different life experiences and different hot buttons.

So why do we look at these situations & see them as being about women?

We’re quick to assume that the issue is womenandmdash;too much estrogen–when we haven’t looked deeply enough at the problem.

IT’S ABOUT LEADERSHIP

The problems in the first workplace I described are not the result of women working with women.

They are the result of a workplace with several emotionally unhealthy employees & a very weak leader who won’t address problems. He sets no limits, will not coach or correct employees with no consequences for bad behavior, or accountability.

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The second situation I described is about a workplace with a very capable woman as president who has worked hard to become a great leader. She invested in coaching for female leaders. She has a management system designed to address problems, and a commitment to coach, train and develop people. There are clear goals, expectations, consequences and accountability.

Surely we can all agree to stop perpetuating the negative stereotype by making oversimplified assumptions that workplace problems are a result of women working with women.

We can also make sure we are not acting out any of those unfortunate behaviors ourselves or acting in a way that perpetuates the problem.

Let’s commit ourselves to improve our leadership abilities so that we can address workplace situations rather than assume they can’t be changed and blame the problems on women working with women.

In the words of one of my favorite leaders, Ghandi, “Be the change you wish to see.”

I’m collecting stories about great teams of women working effectively and happily together to find the common themes. Tell me yours!

Copyright 2012 Darice Harris

Darcie Harris is an accomplished speaker, consultant, columnist, and media resource on women’s entrepreneurship and the challenges faced by professional women. CEO of EWF International, Darcie can be reached at 405.205.1124 or Darcie@ewfinternational.com.

The Overlooked Secret to Your Business Success

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A tale of two dogs.

My friend Dan has a cute little dog that he loves, but it’s making his life complicated. When he lets the dog out, it runs off, explores the entire neighborhood, and won’t come back when it’s called.

So Dan spends a fair amount of time worrying. Not to mention, walking around trying to find his dog (sometimes in the wee hours of the morning).

Another friend, Inky (I’m not making this up, that’s his real name), has a very obedient boxer. Upon Inky’s quiet commands or even silent hand signals, his dog will happily sit, stay, come, roll over, lie down, play dead or jump in his truck.

I’m guessing Inky could even get this dog to make the bed.

You may think that Dan has a bad dog and Inky has a good dog.

It’s not about the dogs.

The difference in these two pets andndash; or more specifically in these two pet owners andndash; is also the secret ingredient to many successful businesses.

The difference is discipline.

Not just the discipline of the dog. The discipline of the owners.

The self discipline it takes to train the dog. The self discipline to think things through, to be patient, to be consistent, to communicate, to devote time to training the dog.

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The truth is, owning a business is hard and we’re pulled in a dozen different directions at once.

Marketing, technology, social media, operations, financials, taxes, employment law, customer service, teamwork, strategy, interviewing, hiring, workers compensation.

The list of issues that a business owner has to know about is almost frightening.

Not everyone succeeds.

I’ve seen business owners who were creative marketing geniuses that still achieved only mediocre results. I’ve seen business owners who were a whiz with numbers or who had terrific people skills, and still stalled out at a lackluster plateau.

In most cases it wasn’t lack of smarts that held them back.

It was lack of discipline.

You may have a brilliant marketing mind and come up with the most clever, noticeable marketing campaigns. But if you don’t have the self discipline to execute those plans consistently, you won’t see the growth you want.

You can be a great sales person, skilled at developing relationships, drawing out prospects’ needs and offering just the right solution to meet the customers’ needs. But if you’re only “on” 25 weeks of the year, your company will never reach its full potential.

You can read business books about strategy, execution, planning, and leadership (yawn). You can have all the “head knowledge” on all the topics & subjects.

You can know what to do and still not do it.

Or not do it consistently. And it’s the consistency that makes all the difference.

No matter how good you are at some (or all!) of these things, without a healthy dose of self discipline, your results will never be what they could be.

What does self discipline look like?

Here are just a few ideas. You likely have more.

  • Being on time for meetings and appointments
  • Keeping your word
  • Treating others with respect
  • Doing what needs to be done, day in and day out, even when you’re tired, frustrated or disappointed
  • Staying focused amidst a thousand distractions
  • Containing your emotions when you’d like to rant and rave
  • Being consistent instead of chasing every new idea
  • Focusing in on two or three target markets, instead of trying to be all things to all people
  • Following the policies and procedures (that you put in place yourself!)
  • Facing difficult people issues instead of avoiding them
  • Having fiscal discipline, instead of spending yourself into a hole too big to dig out of
  • Holding regular weekly staff meetings with a real agenda
  • Scheduling and holding quarterly and annual planning sessions

As I look back on the most successful women business owners we’ve worked with over the years, the common denominator andndash; regardless of industry or intellect andndash; is self discipline.

It’s not flashy, it’s not glamorous, but self discipline may just be the secret ingredient to your business success.

I’d love to hear your shortcuts, tricks and secrets to developing habits of self discipline. Just post them in the Comments section.

Fifteen Critical Growth Questions

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Warren Buffet has said that he bases his investment decisions on what he notices. He pays attention to those around him, to what they like, dislike, choose and avoid. Consequently, he’s tuned in to market trends and changes.

You know what I’ve noticed lately? Clients with increasing sales, hiring new people and expanding.

Here’s a quick rundown of some of the conversations I’ve had with four clients this week:

  • One said sales are up 1,100 percent and they have over $750,000 in orders backlogged, waiting to be shipped.
  • Another is opening a new location, based on the success of her first location.
  • A third now has a waiting list for new clients.
  • A forth is hiring for a key marketing position and now needs to up the salary for that position to attract truly qualified candidates.

I’m not an economist (thank God!), but from what I see and hear, it sounds like our economy is definitely on the upswing. Though economic growth will vary depending on what part of the country you’re in, maybe it’s a good time to get out of “hunker down” mode and get positioned for growth.

How long has it been since you’ve stepped back and taken a strategic look at your growth plans? Wouldn’t that feel great, after three years of anxiety, caution, or outright gloom!

Get positioned for growth now, by asking yourself a few tough questions.

1) In one sentence, describe your company:

2) In one sentence, what differentiates you in your market? Is that difference meaningful to your customers?

3) If possible, what would you do today that you believe would have a big impact on your business?

4) What three things do you feel are the biggest obstacles of growth within your company?

5) Given an unlimited budget of time and resources, what three things could you do to eradicate those obstacles?

6) What three things could you take immediate responsibility for that would contribute to business growth?

7) In what ways do you think your company could compete better with the competition?

8) “We should be doing that” — Have you said that lately? What pieces need to be in place to act on your idea? .

9) What tools do you believe are necessary to support the generation of new business?

10) How could your company maximize the business relationship with existing clients?

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12) As you explore your corporate culture and business growth initiative to generate new business, what are your three main concerns?

13) In what five ways do you think past marketing efforts have failed to focus on/generate business growth?

14) What is the one underlying economic driver that would create significant value for your business?

15) When was the last time you gathered your team together for a full day or two of strategic planning?

Be a bit like Warren Buffett (wouldn’t that be nice!). Seriously, notice what is taking place around you. Be aware of changes in your industry, in your market, in your community. Apply that awareness to answering the above questions and you can capitalize on those trends and get positioned for growth.

Do Women Run Smaller Businesses Than Men?

The Discussion…

So what do you think?

  • Do you agree that men and women think differently when it comes to business?
  • How much of what you read in the report do you see in yourself?
  • And do you see other factors that lead to the fact that women really do run smaller businesses than men?

And the most important thing…how much does this matter to YOU?

Chime in! We want to hear your opinion. (But make sure you read the report first.)