The subject line of this short post is the beginning of a quote by the poet Rumi. The full quote is:
“You were born with wings, why prefer to crawl through life?”
But just yesterday I asked a woman who owns her business what resources or education she would find most helpful to her as she thinks about growing her business. She said, “I want to grow, I want to make more money, but I just can’t right now. That would take time away from my son, and I just won’t do that.”
Her belief? That it’s an either or choice. That one comes at the expense of the other.
The combination of Rumi’s inspirational quote and my friend’s sad self-limiting belief reminded me of Sheryl Sandberg’s TED talk – it’s worth listening to, not just once but as many times as it takes to truly absorb the support and encouragement she offers.
Sandberg is talking about female executives – the messages they tell themselves, how they underestimate their own abilities, how they slide into self-doubt, and consequently lean back instead of leaning in.
I’ve seen the same behavior in female entrepreneurs. Thinking small instead of thinking big. Believing that growing your business equates to sacrificing your personal life. Worrying that making our desires and expectations clear will make us less likeable.
These are just a few of the ways women pull back. How we crawl through life instead of using our wings.
The facts tell us clearly that women run smaller businesses than men, and self-employed women earn only 55% of what self-employed men earn. Ouch!
Read my report about Why Women Run Smaller Businesses Than Men.
Then let me know what you think and how you experience your world of being a female business owner. I’d love to hear your thoughts.
And remember, you were born with wings!